“If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.” – Beyonce
Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a long-term appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support your physical, psychological, and spiritual growth. Self-love is ever changing. It grows through actions that mature you.
When you act in ways that cultivate self-love in yourself, you begin to accept your weaknesses as well as your strengths. You spend less time explaining away your shortcomings and have compassion for yourself as a human being struggling to find personal meaning. Self-love also helps you be more centered in work, love, life.
How to grow self-love?
Become mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
Set boundaries. You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally, and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.
Protect yourself. Bring the right people into your life. Be aware of the term “frenemies.” It describes the type of “friends” who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. Suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says. You will love and respect yourself more.
Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions.
Source: Psychology Today
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