Spring is here! Use this change in season to change your perspective on life. Spring forward into positivity and let go of an unhealthy need to control. Letting go is more of an art than a science.
You can learn skills to support your transitions through change and uncertainty. These practices support you in knowing what to hold on to and what to let go of.
1. Focus on what you can control
You can’t control external events or others’ reactions. You only have agency over your mindset, attitudes, responses, and reactions.
You need to learn to trust that the things that are out of your control will happen as they do and will generally work out for the best.
There are a few different ways to build this trust, and different methods work for everyone. For some, religious faith helps them relinquish control. Others put their trust in the universe or fate.
Others have learned from experience that most things out of their control tend to resolve themselves positively. They may decide to put their trust in pure statistical evidence.
Do what works for you.
2. Don’t rush through the transition
Fully embrace endings and name your losses (even if they are failures). Think about what to hold lightly, what to hold tightly and what to let go of that no longer serves you.
Practice letting go of a stated outcome and instead allow options and possibilities to enter your mind. This is where your new beginning might form right in front of your eyes.
3. Be in reality
You may not like the change around you, but ignoring it won’t change it or support you in managing through the transition.
Adopt a mindset that fully acknowledges the new reality. Don’t ask yourself how you can change it back.
Instead, ask yourself: “Now that this has happened, how will I respond?”
4. Identify your triggers
Identifying the triggers that make you want to control external events gives you information. You can then use interventions to disrupt your thought process and shift your mindset.
Notice tension in your body or increases in anxiety responses.
This is a particularly useful technique for dealing with painful feelings related to trauma. It helps you to avoid a circumstance that might trigger a stress response.
Take action to relax and calm your body and your mind.
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