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“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” – Francesca Sciandra
No matter what you look like, no matter the money you earn, no matter the home you live in, no matter your challenges – you will meet people in this life who are jealous of you. These jealous people may be family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc. But their assumptions about you and your life can cause you persistent disruptions if you do not learn how to manage them.
The root of most jealousy is that a person perceives you as having something they need or want but cannot obtain for himself or herself. It could be jealousy over having a partner, having a particular house, being a certain weight, or even having certain talents on a job. You may or may not know exactly why someone is jealous of you without great detective work or simply asking point blank. However, you must be careful to confront a jealous person because he or she already feels a certain animosity towards you.
There are six tips to managing a jealous person and staying on the path to having a happy, healthy life. The six tips are as follows: learn to move in silence, listen to your intuition, master your emotions, learn how to be alone, cut relationships that no longer serve you, and cultivate connections with positive like-minded people.
Learning to move in silence means you keep your personal and professional plans and next steps private. You might consult a professional as needed, but you do not advertise to the masses. This is important because a jealous person will try to find ways to put up roadblocks between you and your dreams. One thing you never, never discuss with the masses is your sex life and your money.
Listening to your intuition means you read people and situations in a way that is not always logical. However, when you get a gut feeling, you pay attention and take appropriate action. At times we can sense when someone does not like us. We may not know why they do not like us, but we can sense it. Maybe it is the tone in which they speak to us. Maybe it is the snide comments they make. Maybe it is the eye rolls or smirks. If you get a sense someone does not like you, but they never confront you, it may be jealousy. Watch what you say and do around this person.
Next Steps: Come back in two weeks for part 2 of the “Green-eyed Monster.” In the meantime, do you want more tips and strategies? Check out RL Collins’ latest self-help book, “The Hard Work of Happiness: 50 Life Lessons.”
