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“To be alone is not to be lonely. It means you have the space to nurture your own soul.”
– Unknown
In this life you need to know how to be your own best friend, lover, and cheer leader. Never be codependent on others for your happiness. If you are able bodied and can work, do not be codependent on others for your food, shelter, and clothing. Learn how to navigate life with healthy adult coping strategies that do not require you to be a burden to family, friends, or co-workers. It is okay to have relationships where you occasionally confide in others, but do not use other people as a crutch. Learn how to sit in silence and be alone with yourself. When you develop self-love and self-respect, you can do this without feeling a sense of lack.
Learning how to be alone is powerful. Loving yourself is powerful. Respecting yourself is powerful. No man, woman, or child and take anything away from you when you have the power and courage to stand alone and still love and respect yourself. It is a mark of adulthood to be able to provide your own food, shelter, and clothing without depending on anyone else.
Emotionally intelligent people know when to seek a paid professional for life’s biggest challenges instead of being a burden to family and friends. This paid professional might be a therapist, financial advisor, real estate agent, or plumber. But it is important know when you need help and where to find the appropriate help. Standing strong in this world is not ever asking for help. It is understanding where to find help once you know you need it.
There are answers to your challenges in life by being alone. Many times, we are constantly bombarded with messages from television, radio, the internet, family, friends, co-workers, and more. Have you ever tried to turn it all off and sit in silence? You can learn to understand your purpose in life when you stop listening to outside messaging and just sit in silence alone and listen to your heart. Who are you? What do you want in life? What are you willing to do to accomplish your goals? While you sit and listen to your heart, write it out or journal it and come back to it for motivation and encouragement.
In the end, you only person that will never leave you is you. Learn to look in the mirror and really see yourself. See who you are through all the difficulties of life and keep motivating and encouraging yourself to keep going. Unconditional love starts with you. Give unconditional love to yourself. Speak with love and faith to yourself every day. Be your own best shoulder to cry on. Whatever it takes, every day, be your own best friend, lover, and cheer leader.
Next Steps: Want more tips and strategies? Check out RL Collins’ latest self-help book, “The Hard Work of Happiness: 50 Life Lessons.”
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